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Thanks to the generous folks that I have the joy of pastoring at Terra Nova Church, Jennifer and I are spending a week away… ALONE… on sabbatical in St. George Island, Florida. It’s our earnest desire to return refreshed and renewed… ready to continue the journey before us!

This was our first full day here and we’ve done nothing other than REST and obviously enjoy the beauty of our surroundings. This evening we walked down to the beach for a quick walk and to watch the sunset. It was absolutely gorgeous… as you can see in the picture below!


Beach Sunset

As we were walking, Jennifer began to collect seashells. This is traditionally what she has done every time we have been on the beach together, but the conversation today was different. It encouraged me and brought me a great amount of joy. So, I want to briefly share it here in hopes that you too may find joy in the Gospel… the provision of our gracious Savior!

Broken Seashells As we walked, I too joined in the adventure of collecting seashells. I would grab one, show Jennifer, and wait for her approval. She would look at each one and decide if it made the cut. If it was approved, she placed it in her pocket… If not, it was tossed back into the water. I began to grow confident in this process and bypass those that appeared to be broken… assuming this was part of the criteria… NO BROKEN SHELLS. However, apparently I was wrong.

Out in front of me was a pretty shell, but it was broken. Jennifer asked me to grab that one. I inquired why she wanted it due to its broken condition. Her response is what prompted this blog and my finding joy in the Gospel. She said, “It’s broken, but it’s still beautiful. Like me… I’m truly broken, but God still thinks I’m pretty beautiful.” Wow! I couldn’t agree more!

You see we are ALL broken people… filled with sin… and lost apart from Christ. Please hear me, I’m constantly aware of my brokenness… my sinfulness. This is why the Gospel is the GOOD NEWS. He has redeemed us and chooses to use us… even in our brokenness!

I’m personally grateful for this time that Jennifer and I get to spend away… TOGETHER. It’s already been an amazing time of personal reflection, repentance, and renewal. Believe it or not… Pastors are people too… their personal lives… their relationships… their marriages… have brokenness. It’s so easy to run 100 miles an hour IN MINISTRY and not slow down to nurture our own relationship with Jesus and one another.

So, tonight I REST spiritually… IN HIM… JESUS… and His grace… and forgiveness. I’m broken, but I’m still beautiful to Him. I hope you too will find peace in the redemption that is available in Jesus.

Finally, when it comes to my precious wife… she too is broken. And truthfully, I’ve fallen in love with her many times despite the brokenness… However, today… I’ve fallen in love with her because of her brokenness. The video below pretty much sums up desire for us as we continue this journey called marriage… parenting… ministry… and life.

Stay tuned. I’ll share much more as I spend some much-needed time in the arms of Jesus.

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This blog is a great follow-up to last weekend’s Renewed Bliss message that was a challenge for men… How to Become a Great Lead-Her. WATCH IT HERE on YouTube or LISTEN HERE for the iTunes Podcast.

1. What is the most romantic thing that I’ve ever done for you?

I think you will be surprised… The answer will most likely be something you totally didn’t expect. When we get married we tend to think about nice places and spending lots of money, but the reality is that the little things go along way to communicate our love for our wife.

2. What is something fun we can do together?

Guys, our definition of fun and hers are usually completely different. One of the things about most women is that they want to feel connected to their husbands… to feel like they matter and are important… and one of the ways they do that is by simply having fun.

Now men — I’m not talking about taking her to something that you like doing… I am talking about asking her what she wants to do… and then making that happen! Trust me, it communicates to her that you care.

3. What is one thing I can do for you this week that will relieve stress from your life?

I truly believe that we honestly have no idea how much stress a lady carries around with her on a daily basis. Then you also have to take into consideration how they were created… you don’t have to understand it… you just have to know… that in their life… everything affects everything. So, we should be willing to do all that we can to relieve stress from her life.

This may include giving her an afternoon to herself… without the kids. It may include you cooking dinner one night… and even cleaning up afterwards. Whatever it takes… do it!

4. How can I pray for you?

It is amazing the number of men who will not ask their wife this question. Men, we are called to lead our homes spiritually, which means we should provide protection and direction.

Now, when she asks you to pray for something specific, please resist the temptation to go ahead and be the answer to her prayer by solving the problem she’s bringing to your attention. She asked you to pray… not lecture. I know we have a tendency to try to fix everything, but she doesn’t want you to fix her problem… she wants you to listen to her!

5. If you could change one thing about our marriage, what would it be?

This one takes guts! Most of us assume or at least hope that the answer would be… NOTHING and that our wife would proceed to tell us that we’re perfect. However, that’s rarely the case.

If your wife shares a concern, it’s probably NOT for the purpose of hurting you, but rather because she truly desires to improve that area of your marriage. It may sting a little, but it will also give great insight into what she considers to be important.

Men, Ephesians 5:25 says we are to love our wives as Christ loves his bride, the church.

  • He never stops loving the church.
  • He never stops pursuing the church.
  • He always comes home for the church.
  • He never cheats on the church.
  • He provides for the church.
  • He never stops thinking about the church.
  • He takes the church seriously.

I am not the perfect husband, but more and more I am realizing that my marriage should not be about what I can get, but what I can give and how I can serve.

As men of God, we should go all out to show the world how awesome Jesus is by loving our brides as He loves His!


This adapted post originally appeared on PerryNoble.com

This blog post was written by Lyn Smith. She and her family reside in Oklahoma City, OK where she leads Solid Foundations. We have become friends through social media and share mutual friends in ministry. Visit and SUBSCRIBE to her Blog HERE. Also connect with Lyn on Facebook and Twitter.

I loved this post because it truly echoed my Renewed Bliss message… Till Death Do Us Part. In case you missed it, here it is on YouTube and here is the iTunes Podcast. Enjoy and please share your thoughts and comments!

divorceValentine’s Day was fun and all that, but many of us are confused about what love is, what marriage is, what commitment is, and what covenant is.

February 15, as I was skimming through articles on my iPad CNN app, my eyes were caught by this one … “Day After Valentine’s Kicks Off Divorce Season.

Divorce season? I didn’t even know there was one.

“February 15th starts the busy season for divorce lawyers, as people who were unhappy with their marriages heading into Valentine’s Day often decide that they no longer want to be with the one they used to love.”

“There’s a very large number of people who are considering divorce all the time… on Valentine’s Day, they take stock of things.”

The article goes on to suggest reasons why… but the point is, even with a nationally designated day to express our love… many people don’t understand what love really is.

It isn’t candy and flowers, or lingerie and cologne. It’s not dinner and a movie, or sex. Those are expressions not love. Love is choosing to put someone else’s needs above our own. It is staying in it on purpose, intentionally, because of a vow made to and before God. It is forgiving wrongs and supporting where the other is weak. It is accepting that every day is not fun but still valuable and right.

Marriage is a sacred, unbreakable covenant.

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